Many times we find it very
difficult to apologize to people, we tend to feel it’s not really important and
that it’s just a matter of time before the case (our fault) goes down and
everything will go back to normal, but that’s not true, there is more to apology
than just settling arguments.
A simple, “am sorry” could heal.
There was this day I had an argument with a guy then in boarding school, and my
head was burning, seriously I had killed this guy in my head 20 times, in
5 minutes, in 20 different methods, my whole thoughts was about how to make
this guy feel bad. But then that evening he came over with a well ***conked ***
garri, and said,” John am sorry na, aya come chop”. Trust me when I say I was
healed.
we think sickness is only when we have
headache or other obvious ailments but then sickness is a deviation from the
normal state of health and there is no such deviation worse than anger in fact
it ignites a lot of other health issues like: headache, severe fever and even
heart attack, health personnel’s will tell you, “an angry man is liable to die
young”, an apology helps in preserving a person from the health damages caused
by anger so next time you annoy someone think about this.
Now am going to be listing some other
reasons why we should take apology seriously apart from the already explaining
“healing power”.
Relief.
Say
“I’m sorry” for you as much as for others. You’ll feel better. I promise. Even
if your apology falls on deaf ears, you’ll know you did the right thing—and
sometimes that’s all that counts.
Builds
R-E-S-P-E-C-T.
Relationships are built on respect, and saying “I’m sorry”
shows that you respect another person’s feelings.
Apologizing restores what you
took away from the other person when you wronged them–THEIR self worth and
power.
The person
you've wronged will most likely feel better physically and emotionally
when you apologize.
In fact, research shows that those who receive a
sincere apology exhibit lowered blood pressure and heart rater after receiving
one.
Setting a positive example.
When you apologize, you set a
positive example and others will be more willing to admit their mistakes and
apologize when they’re in the wrong.
Your relationships will grow
closer due to this deeper level of self disclosure.
It’s easy to talk about things when you’re right,
but when you admit your mistakes and flaws, you demonstrate a deeper level
of trust in and caring for the other person.
Apologizing provides justice
to the other party.
When they remain feeling wronged, they remain
angry and focused on the past. An apology can allow the other party to let go
of anger and move forward.
Showing your flaws and
vulnerability by apologizing will make you a more likable person.
People don’t like or trust “perfect” people. When
you apologize, you admit and reveal your likable imperfection.
It
gets easier.
Saying
“I’m sorry” is just like your time your first time on facebook. It gets more
comfortable and familiar the more you practice it.
Once you've apologized,
you’ll no longer seem like a threat to the other party.
When you've wronged someone, they’ll
constantly be on guard for the next attack. When you apologize, it often helps
bring their guard back down.
Saying
“I’m sorry” is a learned behavior, and it takes time and practice just like
everything else. Best of all, showing empathy and compassion for the people
around you bolsters your path to being the best “you” that you can be.
God Bless you for this
ReplyDeleteMore Grace!!!
Amen ma, thanks a lot
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