Success is relative and defined by our individual goals and accomplishments. Not by comparing ourselves to others or by what others think success is for us. When you look at people who you believe are successful, what do they do and have in common? When you look at your own successes, what are the things you did to accomplish those successes?
Success forms patterns and usually follows a set of defined principles and behaviors. When we get outside these behaviors and principles and start seeing the wrong outcome or things going in the wrong direction, this is when we need to pause. We need to step back and evaluate our success fundamentals.
Many of the most accomplished people including Stephen King and Abraham Lincoln all experienced challenges early on, but they didn't give up. They stayed focused on their goals and persevered because they believed in themselves. They all had their own success processes and consistently worked and tweaked them as they needed to along the way. They still do, because successful people are always refining.
Well here i listed a few reasons why i think most people never succeed :
1. They don’t understand the value of time.
Unsuccessful people don’t value their time. They are everywhere, anywhere, anytime because they lack the ability to dedicate their time towards their goals. And year after year they make new promises which never come to fruition simply because they couldn't be bothered to put in the time required towards their goals. Time management skills, learning how to say no and knowing what commitments to undertake, is a step towards great success in any area of our lives.
2. They don’t do things that are in alignment with their goals
The more important a goal is, the higher it will be on your hierarchy of values and the more discipline and order you will have associated with it. The less important a goal is, the lower it will be on your hierarchy of values and the less discipline and more disorder you’ll have associated with it. Unsuccessful people have mistaken busyness with productivity. They are a part of everything but nothing which they do is in alignment to their values and their goals. Writing down in a journal what your gaols are and implementing strategies which can get you there will help you identify things that are not on par with where you are going.
3. They have self-imposed limitations
Unsuccessful people tend to say things like “I’m just not good with numbers”, “I just really hate studying”, and “I just don’t think I can run a successful business”. They put limits on themselves and excuse their behaviour but it’s really just a way of underachieving and aiming low enough to not miss. Get rid of the idea that you only have a specific set of skills and talents for specific tasks, stop thinking that you’re not as intelligent as the next person. What life requires of you is to make the most of yourself, for yourself, and for others.
4. They are good at making excuses
These are the people who will find reasons and logic as to why they can’t and why they shouldn't. They sometimes mistake this abhorrent tendency for “just being realistic”. They lack imagination and always find ways to justify why something shouldn't be but they never really try. The best remedy for this is to stop your mind when it’s about to start making the excuses and re-ignite the engine that has started it all.
5. They don’t’ take action
“Do something today, your future self will thank you for” – Les Brown
The simplicity of this rule of life may be why they disregard the magnitude of its effects. Unsuccessful people tend to ponder and leave footprints in the sands of time. They can talk a great game and they dream really big but they lack the courage to just go forth. Stop dreaming about what will be, dreams in themselves are not bad but get up, show up and DO something. Stop with the coffee shop meetings and go do something.
The people who are out there making things happen are not as extraordinary as we make them ought to be. They’re pretty plain and most of the time after a second glance they’re not all that exceptional in any way but they've managed to get to where they are and stay there because they mastered the art of discipline and being the right person at the right time. Maybe you have so many things you want to complete and sometimes you feel so overwhelmed because, there’s just not enough time. Put the cell phone down, log off once in a while and stop minding everybody’s business and you’ll be amazed at the potential you’ll unlock.
