It gets to a point when we need to make changes
relating to everything that concerns our life. Unfortunately, a good majority
of us have settled (un)comfortably in our old habits and will find ourselves
feeling just slightly more powerless against our ability to slay the dragons
that stand between us and our best self. If you’re like me and want to take
charge and be your boss from now on, sit tight and enjoy the ride.
· Figure Out What You Really Want (and Really Need)
I don’t know about you, but I am amazing at coming up with new stuff “to want”.
I mean, if I were to be reviewed on my ability to desire, I would get a promotion
and raise every second. Now, consistency in my wants is a whole other story. I
can want a pair of fantastic shoes on Monday and forget all about them by
Friday. But a trip to Dubai? That’s a pretty consistent desire 😄😄😄.
If you’re like me, I've got a plan, create a life pyramid.
Place your ultimate goal at the top, your next biggest want and need below it,
your next three and four below them. You now have 10 goals to focus on
nurturing and flourishing. Now write down three ways you will work towards
achieving or maintaining these goals and carry both exercises around with you
to use as reminders to stay on-track. Some questions to always ask yourself: Is
the way I am handling this situation working for or against these goals? Are my
life choices helping me achieve my goals or serving as an anchor or
distraction? How are the people I am spending most of my time with helping or
hindering my progress?
· You Aren't Jay-Z. Translation: Get Yourself a Budget
Nice shoes,amazing dresses and fabulous outings are great, but stressing about
how you’ll live for two weeks while you wait for your next salary? Not so much.
Instead of swiping without thinking, figure out how much you make per month,
what you need to spend money on, what you want to spend it on and how much you
need to save in case of an emergency.
· Take A Relationship Inventory
There is a saying that you become like the five people you hang out with most.
Think about the people in your life who get most of your time and attention.
How do they make you feel? How do they support you? Do you feel you can trust
them? Count on them? If you have people in your life who bring you down (or
worse, push you down) it’s time to do a bit of cleaning. Life is hard enough
without having to deal with those who don’t have your best interests at heart.
· Relationship Rebuild
We all get busy, stressed and caught up in our thoughts and lives, but
relationships are like plants: Water them and they flourish, ignore them or
water only when they are wilting and you’ll watch them die a slow death. If you
have a relationship that needs a little extra, move past pride and reach out to
rebuild.
· Stop Making (and Accepting) Excuses
We all have “reasons” for saying hurtful things, making poor life choices, and
engaging in behavior and relationships we know are not really good, but how do
those reasons bring you closer to the moments, success, love
and situations you are aching to experience? If you have someone in your life
who chooses to excuse bad behavior instead of addressing it, stand firm and let
them know you’re there to help, not enable. Ask the same of those around you when it comes
to overcoming your own bad habits. This also serves as a good way to gauge the
sincerity of apologies. When someone apologizes and gives a reason for bad
behavior, they may be sorry, but it will likely happen again. If they supply
subtext with information as to how how they are working to make certain it does
not happen again, it’s more likely they’re on a path of progress.
· Watch Your Words
Once out, the things you say cannot be taken back and they are often processed
through filters that contain unique personal projections. Think about the message
you want to convey before you alert the media, and if you find you’ve said too
much or the wrong thing, clarify and apologize (if necessary) and then learn
your lesson. Avoiding situations where you engage in gossip or unnecessarily
negative conversations, it will work wonders for your reputation (and peace of
mind).
· Strengthen Your Weaknesses
No one gets to adulthood without having packed a few bags which usually includes
traumas, fears and misconceptions that need to be addressed and sorted out. You
could just continue to allow these things to impact your life, job and
relationships negatively or you can choose to take a proactive approach. If you
are finding that you’re needing a bit of help navigating through a situation,
don’t be ashamed to reach out to a others around for a little help. A lot of
people face depression, anxiety or just have a lot going on and don’t know how
to handle it, finding someone to talk to can really help in moving through it.
·
Value Accountability
Blaming others for your own poor decisions, bad behavior and unhappiness is the
best way to hand over your personal power. When we hold ourselves and others
accountable, we accept that we are in total control of ourselves which not only
builds confidence, but allows us to see ourselves as the masters of our own
lives (and fate). Knowing where others end and we begin (and vice versa) is a
really powerful tool when building your best self.
· Be Prepared To Walk Away
Whether it is a job or a relationship that lacks respect, knowing that you are
not so controlled by your desires or fear and that you’re not willing to ignore your good
senses or self-respect offers a great sense of peace and freedom. It also sends
a message to those around you that you’re not someone to try and manipulate or
walk over, which will bring you less frustration overall.
· Do Your Very Best
Whether you’re making writing a article, singing a song or even making an
apology, give the thing you do your full attention and do them to the best of
your ability. When you ask someone how they are doing, keep looking at them and
pay attention to their answer. When you’re working on a project, don’t rush it
“just to get done.” Those around you will take notice of your attention to
detail and the way you fully immerse yourself in conversations and tasks, thus
building a reputation for respect and reliability. That said, when you have
done your best, know that it’s enough.
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