Hay guys, I decided to write on this topic because I find it
mostly ignored, I observed everyone suffers this problem at one point in their
lives (myself included).Now, what if I told you that most of the things you called problems
are not really the problem, it might just be a case that was caused by a
problem, sounds complicated right? Well, you will be cleared once we begin.
First we will talk about the cases, and then we link them all to one problem.
And find a solution for it.
What are these Cases?
INFERIORITY COMPLEX -
Yea I used
to be here, and I must tell you it’s as bad it gets, it makes you feel almost
like you don’t deserve to exist, like every other person knows this stuff apart
from you and if you talk they might all laugh at your stupidity, according to
Wikipedia, it is, “An inferiority complex is a lack of self-worth, a doubt and uncertainty, and feelings of not measuring up to standards. It is often subconscious, and is thought to drive afflicted individuals to overcompensate, resulting either in spectacular achievement or extreme asocial behavior. In modern literature, the preferred terminology is "lack of covert self-esteem".[1] For many, it is developed through a combination of genetic personality characteristics and personal experiences.”. Most people are experiencing this; it makes you
feel you can’t do a certain thing, for example you are asked to speak in a
group, and you just start having this feeling that you don’t have anything to
offer.
According to the research I made, People in this bracket,
tend to be the most brilliant, turns out they are actually thinking the
opposite of the reality, they think they can’t do it, whereas they could do it
better than everyone else. Well that’s
just one case.
SHYNESS -
This is
quite similar to inferiority complex, according to Wikipedia, it is,” Shyness (also called diffidence) is the feeling of apprehension, lack of comfort, or awkwardness especially when a person is around other people. This commonly occurs in new situations or with unfamiliar people. Shyness can be a characteristic of people who have low self-esteem. Stronger forms of shyness are usually referred to as social anxiety or social phobia. The primary defining characteristic of shyness is a largely ego-driven fear of what other people will think of a person's behavior. This results in a person becoming scared of doing or saying what they want to out of fear of negative reactions, being laughed at, humiliated or patronised, criticism and/or rejection. A shy person may simply opt to avoid social situations instead.[1]”. I call it “the fear of
eyes” because being shy is practically being afraid of people looking at you,
this might occur when you consider others superior to you, being shy is really
funny because sometimes, it’s not as if you don’t know what to say, you are
just afraid of the looks. You do well in your training sessions but when it
comes to presenting it to a group or congregation; you make a mess of the whole
thing. So that’s another case
CHEATING -
I know
some of my friends who carried over courses simply because they depended on
exam malpractice, now according to
science, we only use about 2% of our brain capacity in our life time, seriously
2% so why don’t you trust yourself
enough to pass an examination, I have this particular friend that puts all his
hopes on cheating, he writes stuffs on paper, then folds and hide it, they even
nicknamed it “bullet”, but this same guy has every Eminem’s rap in his head, he
can almost totally emulate Eminem on every single move he made in every of his
Videos, He has just agreed in his mind that if I don’t cheat, I don’t pass, without
even noticing that all the potentials he needs to do even better in his
education Is right inside of him..
Now,
there is nothing you will read that you don’t have the ability to comprehend,
some people say schooling is for a specific set of people, this totally false,
its true there are some people that understand everything just by being in the
class but if you are not the type, you just have to read and you will
definitely understand, well that’s another case.
REFUSAL TO GIVE SOME STUFFS A TRY -
This is
the final case am going to be talking about, I was in an Office one day and
this man came to tell the guy with me that Shell in P.H was looking for workers
and since he was looking for a job he could go and apply there to see if he
would be employed, but my guy was like, “dude please, you want me to waste
transport in going to Porthacourth right, he just refused to go simply because
he went to a Polytechnic.
You might have passed
by some other opportunities without knowing just because you refuse to give it
a try, A friend of mine wrote that, “Cute people are the loneliest because
everyone is thinking he/she is dating someone already”, am now talking about the
dating aspect here, am just trying to bring out that point “Thinking”, You shouldn't let what you think stop you from what you want, Always say to
yourself something like, ”Ok This might not work but I’ll still give it try”,
after all if it didn't work, it doesn't mean you failed, it just means you have
found another way that won’t work.
Alright, we have seen
some of the cases that we encounter in our lives, so what is my Problem?
The
answer is simple, if we check the cases above, from the Inferiority complex, the
shyness, the cheating aspect to the Refusal to give some stuff a try. We find
out that in all of them we are TOO BUSY
HOLDING ON TO OUR UNWORTHINESS. It’s obvious; if you don’t feel worthy then
it changes the way you approach certain things you come across.
Why do we feel unworthy? you want to
propose to a girl, but she is too beautiful/brilliant you don’t think she will
accept you, You want this job, but then you went to a Polytechnic so you don’t
think you will be accepted, You want to talk to a group but because you see
many knowledgeable persons among the group, you feel you can’t offer anything.
You should know that you as Worthy as you think you are, remember that there is
no other person like you on the planet.
The solution to
the problem is simple, change your mindset, get rid of the “buts”, and start
thinking big. You have always thought you are unworthy and it brought you all
the negative cases, try thinking you are Worthy from today. You might be
surprised just how much you will achieve just by changing your mindset. Your
mind has the ability to Make you or break you.
CHOOSE TO BE MADE
